I constantly pray every night that my children will love God more than anything in this world! More than me, more than my husband, and more than themselves. I am a very selfish mother, and I’ll be the first to admit that. I want to be around my kids all the time, experience EVERYTHING with them, and be that person they know they can count on. So when it comes to the Lord, I realize I cannot be that mom. I have to realize…my kids are HIS kids before mine. That one day they will be with him for eternity and that is the end result. It is something I have to remind myself ALL THE TIME…..
1. When I want to buy them everything in this world, I have to realize that I don’t want to raise them to keep their eyes on the materials of this world but teach them to keep their eyes up on the heavenly things. Not that buying them things is wrong, but I want to remind them where it came from initially.. from HIM. Because my money is not my money to begin with…it is the Lord’s. Sometimes the part of me that says “they’ll love you if you buy this” will come out, and I realize that is selfish thoughts. I should want them to love Him above all.
Colossians 3:2 – Keep your mind on the things above, not on the things of this earth.
2. When my kids began eating table foods, we ALWAYS said the prayer. Brooks, who is 2 now, knows that before he eats he needs to thank God. He puts his little hands together and tries his best to say the words of the prayer. My daughter, who is 1, is now learning as well. She is a little more impatient when it comes to food, but we are working on that ha. Making this into a habit at a young age is so important. I cannot wait until the day comes where they can say their own prayers and it be heartfelt.
Proverbs 22:6- Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
3. Praying with the kids before they go to sleep is a daily routine for us. I love when my husband and I hug our kids and pray over them before we tuck them in at night. Brooks always blows God a kiss after each prayer, and it tugs at my heartstrings every single time!
James 5:16-“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”
4. Music is a big deal around our house! I MEAN A BIG DEAL! Every day Brooks will shake his shoulders and say “daaance!” So we blare our music as loud as it will go and dance around our living room . Since our kids have a love for music, singing christian songs especially children songs (Jesus Loves Me) should fill the house. I’ve learned…whatever we fill our minds with…will come out of our hearts and mouth. So letting our kids sing songs that are based around Jesus Christ…Will be reminders for them.
Luke 6:45-“The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart.
5. I recently visited one of my friends who is a mother of four year old twins. I get the privilege to watch their nightly routine as their mother tucks them in for the night. I was amazed on how much these two young children knew about our Heavenly Father. She tucked them into bed and asked them to first say their own prayer. I wish I had a recorder to type every word that those kids said…. not only was it heartfelt…but these kids KNEW He was real without a shadow of a doubt. They talked to him as if He was their best friend, and I could not stop smiling. I have heard some adults pray, and it almost seemed rehearsed. I know with every fiber God is real…HE is my father…so I love to talk to him in that manner. I respect my Father and love him…I console in him….cry and laugh to him. I want my kids to be “tight” with him as well. What better best friend could they ever have in their lifetimes? Teaching them to talk to God daily is so important.
1 Thessalonians : Pray without ceasing.
6. When kids are young…heck when they are older too…. they get scared of A LOT! Reminding our kids that God is ALWAYS with them will help them understand their lives are in His hands. When I visited this friend, I also heard her ask her kids “Where is God?” and their response was “With Spiderman, in our beds, in our HEARTS, and EVERYWHERE.” Wait….WHAT??? Did you hear their response? They KNEW at four years old that he was everywhere. So when we heard them later that night say “Mom I’m scared.” Do you know what their mom’s response was… “Do not be afraid God is with you. When God is with you, you don’t have to be afraid.” Seriously! I mean seriously…. how perfect is that response! When I left her house, I KNEW that even at a young age I can teach my children so much about Him. And I know through my kids…I will learn even more.
Psalms 118:6 – The Lord is with me. I will not be afraid.
7. Families going to church together and getting involved will help our kids love the Lord’s house. When the kids were newborns, it was hard to go to church… I regret making this an excuse too. God should come first in every situation…. but we were exhausted and did not feel comfortable leaving our babies in childcare. Brent and I realized…us not going to church impacted our lives in such a negative way. We would feel ourselves getting more agitated and the vibes in our home just were not as pleasant. Now even though our kids do not always make it all the way thru… we make sure we go to church. Don’t get me wrong…have we missed here or there? yes! But we know when we get up on Sunday mornings we are going. It is not a question. Our kids love listening to the band play, and we love watching them sway back and forth. One Sunday I watched my son literally walk around the front row getting people fired up to the Lord’s music. It melted me ….literally I had to stop the tears from rolling, or I would be the mom with the ugly cry. I can only imagine the day my kids ask to be baptized or tell me they are saved.. based on their own heart…. we are going to have the BIGGEST celebration known to mankind. To know my children will have a place in heaven when that day comes… what more could a mother ask for??
Psalms 78:4- We will not hide these truths from our children; we will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the Lord, about his power and his mighty wonders.
8. Every morning I wake up at 5 to read the bible and have my time with the Lord. It is the only time during the day that I get that alone time to really focus on the word and write down bible verses to memorize. The more I read the bible verses I write down, the more I remember them in time of need. Even though it is important for me to have this time, I also think it is important for the kids to see me reading the bible and even have a bible of their own. As the kids get older, I want them to ask me what I am reading and what it means. I want to be a good example of how a christian woman reads the bible and prays. I remember reading a story once of a mom who would read the bible and wrote post-it notes to remind her of the things she needed to pray for. On one of the post-it notes she wrote “I pray my kids get caught when they do wrong”… initially (before I became a mother) I didn’t quit understand why this would be a prayer. But then it hit me…. with all our actions are consequences…when we meet those consequences we face the truth and turn to God. It reminds me of the song “Bring the Rain” by MercyMe. If that’s what it takes to praise you….Jesus BRING THE RAIN! MAKE IT POUR ON ME! This is hard to swallow…who wants to ask for hardship? But God is above it all.
Psalms 119:25- Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path
9. We are our kids biggest impact especially at a young age. Brooks and Harper will develop behaviors and habits with my impact. Not saying that they do not have their own personalities and make their own decisions… I just know as a mom I have a role in sculpting them. With that being said, it is SO SO important for me not just to speak like a God Fearing Woman, but I HAVE to act in the same way. I am BY FAR not perfect…I have made so many mistakes in my life it is hard to believe I am even lovable at times, but God loves me …and despite my sin I shouldn’t let it hold me back from getting up every morning and starting new. I want my kids to see me giving to the needy… greeting someone who may not look like they want to be greeted, praising the Lord in my car/home/school/EVERYWHERE, helping families in need, joining groups at church, and the list goes on and on. I want my kids to LOVE the LORD with EVERYTHING in their little bodies…and by loving our Father… you must love others despite our differences and how hard it may be at times.
Deuteronomy 6:6-9 – And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and where you are on the road, when you are going to bed, and when you are waking up.
10. Here it is…the HARD ONE. .. DISCIPLINE. I remember growing up, right before I got my bottom torn up for an action I definitely shouldn’t have done, my mom would always say, “this is harder on me than it is you.” Rolling my eyes of course..I thought to myself… um no freaking way! I am the one with the sore hind. Well….I bow down and can humble myself now… because she was right!! It is HARD to punish my kids. Don’t get me wrong…sometimes I am ready to punish them, so they will stop their behavior immediately especially if it is an repetitive act they should not be doing. But dang….even after I punish them…my heart breaks. Their lip quivers and all the way to the pit of my stomach, I can feel their hurt. So YES… it is harder on me emotionally. This is something I have to remind myself daily… God shows us consequences, and he is a great Father…WAYYYY better than me as a mother obviously. Why in the world would I do anything different? Shouldn’t I look up to him and at least attempt to be like Jesus? I also have to tell myself, if I don’t punish now…what will they be like later? We are asked to do hard stuff as parents and this is definitely one of them.
Proverbs 19:18- Discipline your children while there is hope. Otherwise you will ruin their lives.
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