There is something special between a mom and a son… Sometimes I cannot even fathom the bond and feelings I get with him. I want to hold him and literally hug and love on him all day long. I am constantly telling him I love him throughout the day as I grind my teeth because I feel my emotions wanting to bust out of my chest. It is an unexplainable love that we have for our children…and you know the crazy thing is… our God loves us even more!! Because I love him so much, I want to teach him how to be the best man he can be. Not for me but for him and his future family.
-I want him to know that he is a WARRIOR of our God. I pray everyday that he and the Lord have a strong, unshakable relationship. More than anything, I want God to be the center of his life, the center of his future household, and the center of his future occupation. I know if God is the center, everything else will fall into place. I want him to fight against the odds and go to war for God in this dark world. To pray above everything else. To shout and fight against the most deceitful liar when he tries to pounce on him. I know Brooks relationship with God will have a strong impact on his family one day. The man of the house can make a HUGE impact on his children in a different way than a woman can. I want him to wear this on his chest Joshua 24:15- As for me and my family, we WILL serve the Lord. I am so grateful my son sees his earthly dad with this mindset. He sees what it is supposed to look like for a man to take the lead role in our house and make the decision that we will serve the Lord.
-Our sons need to know that they will be the head of their households one day and with that comes responsibility. It is our job to teach our sons responsibilities at home to prepare them to be the leaders of their households. The song “Lead Me” by Sanctus Real always pulls on my emotions. To know that the man has so much pressure to lead their families… to show their wives the love and attention they so desperately need, to be a strong example for their children, to make a living to support the everyday needs of his family, and to lead his family to love the Lord.
Responsibilities I want to teach my son :
1 My son needs to know how to clean. As a mom, I want to clean everything. I want him to know… “Hey Mom has got me!” but I cannot let him live on a lie that someone will always be following him around cleaning up his messes. My son needs to learn how to clean…not for me (even though it helps me out) but for his family. I do not want his uncleanliness to drive a wedge between him and his wife one day.
2. Um yes he needs to learn how to cook…. I do not want my child starving one day if all the fast food restaurants for some miraculous reason shut down. Plus, there is something special about a man who can cook his own meals. His wife will love him for it.
3. MONEY HONEY! This is such a big responsibility for Brooks to learn. There are so many kids out there who grow up with money and have NO concept of it. Finances is one of the biggest factors for divorce and depression. Once again, do I want to provide and buy my son everything he ever dreamed of? HECK YES! Is it the best thing for him? NO! He needs to learn how money works by giving him ways to earn money, teaching him to tithe with a percentage of earnings, showing him how to save a percentage, and filling him in on mom and dad’s funds. He needs to be told “no” because we cannot afford it. I do not want my son to fall into a “want” mentality. If he gets everything he wants, he will ALWAYS want even more. It will be a depressing cycle that will never end, and it will lead my son into piles of debt.
–I want Brooks to know how to treat woman not only for his wife but for all woman he will encounter. His father is going to be able to show him how to treat woman thru me and his sister. Brooks is already watching us at two years old. He is watching how Brent interacts with me. He sees Brent kiss me as soon as he walks in the door, him opening my car doors, bringing me flowers every month, showing me physical attention with just a random kiss or hug, and he ALWAYS tells me I am beautiful (even on my worst days), and he loves me. I want Brooks to know that woman should be cherished, respected, and treated gently. I don’t ever want him to think it is okay to talk down to a woman, lay his hands on a woman out of anger, or even use inappropriate language in front of a woman. Brent and I have discussed if we are upset with one another no matter how mad we may be that we will wait to discuss that situation after the kids go down for the night. Will our kids see us bicker here and there? Yes that’s reality… will they see us raise our voices or be an audience to our 30 minute disagreement discussion? NO.
–I pray Brooks is a man who goes against the odds of this world. I want him to be the boy who asks the lonely girl to dance with him because she’s sitting on the bench alone, dateless. I want him to be a part of multiple groups in high school instead of one and not allowing anyone to change who he is. I want him to stick up for what is right and never backdown to please someone else. I can already see the gift my son possesses. I know I know…. I am his mother, and I am SUPPOSED to say that. But I genuinely feel it. He has a gift of knowing who needs a smile or a hug. He can sense when someone is having a rough day or feels lonely. I stand up a little bit taller when anyone asks “Is this your son?” “HECK YEA he is my son!” I am proud to be his mother not only because I held him in my overly large stomach for 9 months, but I am proud of the person he is. He greets anyone who walks by and shakes hands of the ones sitting alone for lunch. Honestly, I know it is his personality and his God given gift… but do I think as a parent we can somehow encourage our children to be outgoing and love people? Yes! By doing the same things we want our kids to do. Saying s simple hello to everyone we come across… giving that Mississippi steering wheel wave as we drive down the road…. genuinely talking to people whether it is at the grocery checkout or McDonalds drive-thru. I want my kids to inherit a people loving personality….and my husband and I have a strong impact on just that.
–HUMBLE and KIND! If you haven’t heard the song by Tim McGraw “Humble and Kind” you are missing out! This song gives me chills… because I want this for my kids. To be humble and kind despite what this crazy world has to offer. Being humble is a hard trait to come across these days. In my eyes, being arrogant (which is different than confident) is such an unattractive trait to possess. There will always be someone who beats your running record, who dates a prettier girl, who has the newest iphone…. so I don’t see the point in arrogance. God is number one above all… we should all humble ourselves to that. To the fact that we are no better than the man next to us with no shoes and lives in a box. I want my son to be humble even if he does score more touchdowns than anyone in High School Football or wins every spelling bee since the day he stepped foot in kindergarten. As hard as it is as a mother, I know I will have to remind him that there are better players or spellers out there. Mothers (especially me) want our kids to know we think the world of them! They are everything in this world that is great and the best of the best! But is it fair to fill our kids heads with this mindset? What will happen if they don’t even make the football team? Then what do we say? I believe we should build our kids confidence, but we shouldn’t give them false hope. By reminding them to be humble will help them in the long run instead of making them believe they are the best things in the entire world. Even though they are in our minds…. they may not be to the world.
–I work hard for my money! Growing up, we didn’t have much. My mom was a single mom of four little girls. That means four little girls to feed, clothe, and provide the daily essentials we needed that only got more expensive as we got older. My dad did pay child support as well, but regardless I know it was hard. So by the age of 14 we all had jobs. We didn’t have a choice. We watched our mom work hard too. She worked at nights and went to school. She had a full time job, 5 kids at the time, and she still worked hard to get her masters online. So because of this… my sisters and I are darn hard workers. I know this sounds like I’m doing a hair flip and snapping my fingers… but its nothing more than accepting the way I am based on how I grew up. We didn’t have the option to be lazy, and it is probably one of the only traits I have that I am actually proud of haha. I want this for my son as well. I want him to work and work hard for his family. Not to work where it takes him away from the important things in life like church and his kids baseball games… but work hard in the time he needs to. Before I said arrogance is an unattractive trait to possess…. well here is the other trait. For a man to be lazy is ridiculously unattractive. Brooks hardworking will definitely fall on us. We have to show him what it looks like and expect him to work as well.
There is so much I want to teach him….but if I keep going this will be more of a novel than a simple blog post! I will end it with I want him to be ready and know God can come at any moment.
Matthew 24:44- Always be ready, for the Son of Man will come when least expected
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